How to Be Friends After The Big “D” Divorce

It’s difficult to believe but it’s true. Nearly half of all marriages end in divorce.

It’s so common nowadays that when couples break up, they become better friends. Divorced couples will say, “we’re better apart than we were together.” So what is the secret to staying friends after the big D?

It takes, time, patience and a whole lot of healing. Here are some ways to become and stay friends after divorce.

1. Say “I Do” Differently:

After the emotional roller coaster of making a divorce final is over, it’s time to see your “ex” in a new way.

There are many negative emotional wounds that need to heal before accepting your new friendship roles. Similar to saying “I do” at the altar, there can also be an “I do” list as divorcees. Together or with the help of professional counselors agree to these expectations, especially if kids are involved.

It’s critical to remember that they are innocent bystanders and how you treat one another can affect their future relationships.

2. Co-Parenting Is Key:

Divorces are messy and can be even messier when your children are involved. They need both of their parents to be a positive force in their lives.

Refraining from bad-mouthing your ex, fighting while they are present or preventing equal time visits will indirectly put your precious children in the middle of your baggage. The key is to develop a co-parenting plan. Attend school functions together, make big decisions together and even spend family time together.

This shows your children you are still friends, respect each other and make your new normal work in a positive way.

3. R-e-s-p-e-c-t!:

One of the most important aspects in any relationship is respecting one another.

Common courtesy, maturity, self-control and all those grown-up words that equal respect need to be nurtured and developed for a divorced couple who are entering their new journey down the road to a lifetime of friendship.